She explained how she’d mulled over the decision for months, initially very reluctant because she felt like a failure for not living in London for longer, for moving back to her hometown, for what everyone else would think. She’d thought her life was going to follow Plan A and instead she’d chosen Plan B.
I told her: You’re allowed to change your mind.
More often than not, conversations I have with friends are about encouraging them to break habits and change; something none of us are naturally very adept at. We stick to our favourite pubs, the same dishes on the menu, familiar brands. Big changes in our lives are usually instigated by external factors that are out of our control.
But what if we want change? What if what we thought we wanted turns out to be…well…not what we want at all?
It’s okay to bring about change, no matter how daunting and uncertain it may seem. Beliefs and opinions we had five years ago, two years ago, even six months ago change and so do we. What we read, who we meet and the experiences we have add twists and turns to the path we originally planned to follow. You are probably a very different person to the one you were this time last year and therefore you are entitled to have different priorities.
It doesn’t make you a failure if something you believed you wanted when you were eighteen years old no longer makes you happy at twenty-five.
It doesn’t matter what your friends and family think. Only your ego stands in your way.